apology of a lifetime

i always think it's interesting listening to different folks apologies.  it's kind of a weird fascination, really.  apologies tell you so much about the person and their beliefs.

are they really sorry?
are they just apologizing because they got caught?
do they say they are sorry, or do they just re-word their actions in a sorry-sounding tone?
does it sound like they even care?
do they even have a reason to be sorry?
and possibly most enlightening...
what is the purpose of their apology?

i had a great convo t'day regarding the big A.  seems that most of all ya'll can agree on one thing - if you truly love someone you try your very best not to hurt them, and if you do hurt them, then you're the very first to apologize...

an apology does not fix what deeply committed love could have prevented.

i've known lots of peps in my day, and therefore, due purely to numbers, i've heard a lot of apologies.  don't get me wrong, i don't claim to be an expert, just an observant chick.  but lemme tell you, you can tell a lot from the words that are uttered from a seemingly sorrowful mouth.

actions do speak louder than words.  and sometimes, no matter how loud the words are, your ability to trust has been decimated.  i've had some really amazing friends in my short life, those that i would trust with my life. i would trust my amazing husband with everything i have and everything i am.  there are others though, the apologies that they offered, well, it wasn't that they didn't mean them... they meant them in the moment in which they were uttered, but they would never be lasting.  it's sad to realize that those you've loved are manipulating you, or maybe they're just lying to themselves.

the truth of the matter?  we all need to apologize.  it's a part of life... not because it should be, but because even without trying, we will hurt others.  and the person too proud to let that lil' thing called "ego" die a quick painless death, well, they just won't make it too far in their relationships.

"by the time you finally said you were sorry, i wasn't listening." #noregrets