Sunday, April 12, 2020

The Lockdown Throwdown - When It's Okay To Be OKAY

I don't know, you may or may not be like me, and it's pretty obvious that we're all handling this in our own ways, but I've been seeing so much media lately on how "it's okay to not be okay".  While that is a FANTASTIC message, right now I want to flip the switch on this a little bit, so bear with me for a sec...

I am actually okay right now.

Sure, I experience momentary sadness that we can't spend the Easter holiday with our family, and sure, I get a little stir crazy at our house (doesn't everybody?), but overall, COVID19 has not thrown me into the depths of despair or caused me major anxiety... minus homeschooling. Because obviously 😜

BUT.

Always a but with me.

Just because I'm okay does not mean that I'm stronger/better/more acclimated (insert whatever other word here).  And I'm not okay because I've found the perfect combination of meditation, and work/life balance, and have alllllll of the things figured out.  I don't, I haven't, and I DEFINITELY don't. I don't exactly know why I am "okay", I just am.  So this isn't a "just do these five simple steps and you'll be fine while on lockdown" type of blog.  In fact, quite the opposite.  Just like all of the media I've seen, I agree, it's okay to not be okay right now.  But I think some people need to hear this message too:  "It's okay to be okay right now"

Just because the world is a bit cray cray doesn't mean that you're cray cray for not feeling cray cray.  Yeah, you read that right.  Maybe I have been spending a little too much time at home... 😳  I digress.  My point?  For those of you out there that may have been feeling guilty that you feel okay, while others do not, I want to assure you, it's okay!  In fact, it's good!  It's not because you're somehow superior to others who are struggling with this (we're not!), but it's good because you can help out others when you're okay.  You can make a difference!  So don't be ashamed of feeling okay, as if it's some kind of scarlet letter... Instead, be thankful, that as of right now, you feel okay, and are able to use your energy toward taking care of yourself, and helping to encourage others who may not feel as "okay" right now.***

I would also be remiss if I didn't say that the state of being "okay", may change from minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day.  Some days you will feel good, and you have the presence of mind, and energy, to help others.  Some days you will feel like poop and will need others to give you a helping hand (metaphorically of course, cuz you gotta keep those digits LOCKED THE FRICK DOWN, ain't nobody got time for that!).  

And for those of you reading this who are not okay right now, remember that there is nothing wrong with you.  You are normal.  And that the people in your life who are okay, there is nothing wrong with them, they are normal too.  We are all just trying to figure this out and do the best that we can.  

So, right now I am okay.  And I am happy to help others in any way that I can.  So if you're not currently feeling in the "okay" category, hit me up yo, and I'll do my best to help.  That is how we will all get through this. Together. 💪

Most importantly, just remember, that we are all going to be okay ðŸ’“💓💓

***Side note: From the looks of social media right now, people are looking for just about any excuse to make up a drinking game... So, if you're reading this and you're "not okay", feel free to take a sip every time you read the word "okay" in this post. Just kidding...  Sorta... 😉