it's decided. life is too short to not be committed.
heard a quote this weekend by Tupac, talking about wanting to die for a cause, to live for a cause.
now, let's be honest, i'm not really down wit da hood (other than shoppin at hood-cub) and my ghetto-ness pretty much starts and ends with the appearance of my 'rolla, so i know i prolly don't totally "get" the full meaning of the quote. but what i do get is that without committing your life to something, pretty much anything really, will be the only thing that matters when you're here, and also when you're no longer here.
k, hear me out. when you're on this earth, you got a lot to do, not enough time to do it, and like adhd butterflies we flit from exciting thing to exciting thing. which is good in some ways, right? we get to really experience life in many forms, all of the grand things God has created for us, so many incredible adventures. once we are no longer here though, only our memories stay alive on this earth - but if we never committed to anything, we have not created a legacy to remember, just a person. i don't mean to sound picky or anything, but truly, what do you remember about people when they die? it's the things that they lived for, right? if you didn't really live for much, except your own momentary happiness, well...
my point is not nearly as clear or definite as i would like it to be, but i still feel it's implications. committing to some one, something, somewhere... that to me is a truly beautiful life. a committed life knows many adventures, many heartaches, many many joys - and i believe it is a core part of our humanity. yes, you can certainly disagree, there are many who feel commitment, in any form, to anything or anyone is a tragedy - in my opinion, a life without it is the most heart-breaking thing i've ever seen.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Friday, November 25, 2011
two feet, one heart
it is so strange to have one foot in the cheeriness of the season, one that is thankful and exciting, beginning the journey toward a hopeful christmas... and one foot in the mourning experience, a crucial piece of which is focusing on the past, remembering what it meant then, and what it also means today.
it's been a rough week for many people, both within our community and outside it as well. this experience has been a very good reminder that the holidays are not always a happy time for everyone - there is often deep hurt or buried regret in the hearts of those we pass by daily.
have a little grace with the folks you encounter today, you don't know the burdens that they may be carrying...
it's been a rough week for many people, both within our community and outside it as well. this experience has been a very good reminder that the holidays are not always a happy time for everyone - there is often deep hurt or buried regret in the hearts of those we pass by daily.
have a little grace with the folks you encounter today, you don't know the burdens that they may be carrying...
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
peaceful resting (in)
it's been a long day. Ryn said it best with "there are no words." but in true Kelly-style, i feel the need to fumble around with sentances, even though none will suffice, in hopes that somehow it will bring some semblance of something - just not sure it works that way...
the night before last night we lost a dear friend, someone that both James and Ryn have known for most of their lives. Rick Faulkner died on Monday night, and leaves behind a beautiful fiance and baby son.
there is nothing i can say really, so i'm not gonna try and talk about what his life meant, or how they will live on in his absence, or that his memory will bring honor to his son and fiance... i feel drawn to say the cliche things, "he was so young", "it doesn't seem fair", "why would God do this?", but instead my mind keeps getting pushed toward the beauty of life and how precious every moment is. what i want to focus on right now is thankfulness - for a life that was cut short, but how those who are left still have time to love.
be thankful for what you have, let parting words you say to family and friends always carry the flavor of love, and do not take your life for granted.
prayers and blessings to Rick's family and friends - he is a wonderful man...
the night before last night we lost a dear friend, someone that both James and Ryn have known for most of their lives. Rick Faulkner died on Monday night, and leaves behind a beautiful fiance and baby son.
there is nothing i can say really, so i'm not gonna try and talk about what his life meant, or how they will live on in his absence, or that his memory will bring honor to his son and fiance... i feel drawn to say the cliche things, "he was so young", "it doesn't seem fair", "why would God do this?", but instead my mind keeps getting pushed toward the beauty of life and how precious every moment is. what i want to focus on right now is thankfulness - for a life that was cut short, but how those who are left still have time to love.
be thankful for what you have, let parting words you say to family and friends always carry the flavor of love, and do not take your life for granted.
prayers and blessings to Rick's family and friends - he is a wonderful man...
Monday, November 14, 2011
happiness
yesterday was a lovely day... i spent a large portion of the afternoon lazily walkin 'round the mall of america in true kelly style (adorable by totally uncomfortable boots), relishing some much-needed alone time. i mean, don't get me wrong, i love people, but if there is one thing i would be perfectly fine doing alone for the rest of my natural-born life it would be shopping. there is just something about it, flitting about, from shop to shop, no agenda, no purpose, just enjoyment... love it!
anyway - the always exciting MOA also was privy to a lot of young, decked-out, high school girls patiently waiting for some little dude, a country singer i think? looked like he was 14, but hey, what do i know? :) so while the mall was over-run with crazies, i was still able to score some rockin' gorgeous shoes (see FB pic), and be totally and completely superficial. yes, that's right, i said it. every once in a while it is just grand to be utterly superficial, and let some darling shoes just make your day. which they did :)
back to the point. as i sat on my stoop last night and gazed up at the stars i really had my breath taken away. partially because i'm still mildly ill and it's not hard for my breath to be taken away... and partially because i couldn't help but be a little overcome with just how incredibly happy and lucky i am.
i don't mean to brag here, but i just have to share some of the joy that is on my heart, otherwise i think i just might burst. i have the world's most amazing husband that i can't help but fall in love with again and again every day, a wonderful home that i really enjoy working on and improving, a superb dog that keeps me company and guards me with her life (all 135lbs of her!), a truly amazing family, both natural and through marriage, beautiful and graceful friends (inside and out)... and a very loving God who has really given me the desires of my heart - some days, without me even realizing it.
so i guess i just felt compelled to sit down and write a little about my life - and just how blessed i am. happiness? yes. in my heart. always.
a hottie hubby and a great pair of shoes always sweetens the deal a lil' bit ;)
anyway - the always exciting MOA also was privy to a lot of young, decked-out, high school girls patiently waiting for some little dude, a country singer i think? looked like he was 14, but hey, what do i know? :) so while the mall was over-run with crazies, i was still able to score some rockin' gorgeous shoes (see FB pic), and be totally and completely superficial. yes, that's right, i said it. every once in a while it is just grand to be utterly superficial, and let some darling shoes just make your day. which they did :)
back to the point. as i sat on my stoop last night and gazed up at the stars i really had my breath taken away. partially because i'm still mildly ill and it's not hard for my breath to be taken away... and partially because i couldn't help but be a little overcome with just how incredibly happy and lucky i am.
i don't mean to brag here, but i just have to share some of the joy that is on my heart, otherwise i think i just might burst. i have the world's most amazing husband that i can't help but fall in love with again and again every day, a wonderful home that i really enjoy working on and improving, a superb dog that keeps me company and guards me with her life (all 135lbs of her!), a truly amazing family, both natural and through marriage, beautiful and graceful friends (inside and out)... and a very loving God who has really given me the desires of my heart - some days, without me even realizing it.
so i guess i just felt compelled to sit down and write a little about my life - and just how blessed i am. happiness? yes. in my heart. always.
a hottie hubby and a great pair of shoes always sweetens the deal a lil' bit ;)
Thursday, November 3, 2011
wind beneath your wings
i've heard a lot of theories in my life. glass half full, glass half empty, live and let live, hold on to hope, etc etc.
one of the things i hold to is the idea that love is the greatest of all (cor 13). yeah, married gal lens, but i still think it's true. i've learned a lot in a serious relationship of 8 years (married for 2.7), there are many times when we get the best of ourselves, but mostly, love is based on selflessness.
i will say this now, and say it again - a genuine relationship must be based on being your significant other's cheer leader. sounds simple - right (minus the whole cheerleader outfit, heyyo! :))? but so true. you must, above all else, have your (in my case spouse) significant other's back. i've read interviews, read a few books, had a few life experiences... but i really don't think you can beat trust. someone you know will have your back no matter what, someone who will encourage you regardless of the situation, how can that not be the epitome of happiness?
i see so many relationships where people love each other. which is great. but when the rubber hits the road, they don't actually have that quality of wonder, the one that instills beauty in everything, that thing that inspires - knowing that the one that you love not only loves you, but believes in you no matter what. yes. there are many important parts to relationships... but i can guarantee you that if you do not know (beyond a shadow of a doubt) that the person you love above all else will stand behind you through thick and thin, believes in you and your abilities, and will encourage you in every way (likes, dislikes, passions, hopes and dreams), your relationship is going to suffer. yes, there is fear in that equation - no human is perfect, and no one is without failure, but the foundation of trust is built on the love and respect of "that one", and it can only flourish in that same way.
ladies - grab a toe-hold, cuz this is something that can scare us, but it is totally and completely necessary. a man cannot thrive unless we give him the freedom and ability to do so.
men - the beautiful woman you adore will not grow into what she is meant to be if you do not cherish what she values and respects.
point taken? yes. you must be the person, that when asked, the one you love could say, without a second thought, that you are the one who is the silly-termed "wind beneath your wings"... if you're not, well, you really should wonder... who is?
love is the greatest of all - but you must remember, everyone feels love in a different way. does the one you love feel that support from you in the way that they personally need it?
one of the things i hold to is the idea that love is the greatest of all (cor 13). yeah, married gal lens, but i still think it's true. i've learned a lot in a serious relationship of 8 years (married for 2.7), there are many times when we get the best of ourselves, but mostly, love is based on selflessness.
i will say this now, and say it again - a genuine relationship must be based on being your significant other's cheer leader. sounds simple - right (minus the whole cheerleader outfit, heyyo! :))? but so true. you must, above all else, have your (in my case spouse) significant other's back. i've read interviews, read a few books, had a few life experiences... but i really don't think you can beat trust. someone you know will have your back no matter what, someone who will encourage you regardless of the situation, how can that not be the epitome of happiness?
i see so many relationships where people love each other. which is great. but when the rubber hits the road, they don't actually have that quality of wonder, the one that instills beauty in everything, that thing that inspires - knowing that the one that you love not only loves you, but believes in you no matter what. yes. there are many important parts to relationships... but i can guarantee you that if you do not know (beyond a shadow of a doubt) that the person you love above all else will stand behind you through thick and thin, believes in you and your abilities, and will encourage you in every way (likes, dislikes, passions, hopes and dreams), your relationship is going to suffer. yes, there is fear in that equation - no human is perfect, and no one is without failure, but the foundation of trust is built on the love and respect of "that one", and it can only flourish in that same way.
ladies - grab a toe-hold, cuz this is something that can scare us, but it is totally and completely necessary. a man cannot thrive unless we give him the freedom and ability to do so.
men - the beautiful woman you adore will not grow into what she is meant to be if you do not cherish what she values and respects.
point taken? yes. you must be the person, that when asked, the one you love could say, without a second thought, that you are the one who is the silly-termed "wind beneath your wings"... if you're not, well, you really should wonder... who is?
love is the greatest of all - but you must remember, everyone feels love in a different way. does the one you love feel that support from you in the way that they personally need it?
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